Ex-Transgender Shares Life Experience Being Both Gender

KAMPAR, Nov 30 – “Real love brings real life”. The Department of Psychology of the Faculty of Arts and Social Science proudly invited ex-transgender Edmund Smith to share his experiences with students of Universiti Tunku Abdul Rahman (UTAR), Kampar.

At four, Edmund Smith realised that he wanted to be a girl so that he could be loved by his father and mother. His parents had three boys before he was born. When his parents were expecting their fourth child, they were hoping for a girl.

Smith remembers vividly that his father did not pay much attention to him and instead was more expressive of his love towards the children of relatives and neighbours, especially girls.

Smith recalled, “I could still remember watching my dad pinching the cheeks of my female relatives and neighbours that came over to play and I yearned for him to do the same to me,” Smith said.

Disappointed that his father did not show him the love that he longed for, he turned to live a homosexual life as the age of 13.

It started when he was in secondary school and he had went to bed with hundreds of men since until he reached 21.

However, the men that he had sex with are straight men that were only seeking pleasure. “I was merely a piece of meat for them,” he said in tears.

Smith was insecure about his look and his body. He strived so hard to make himself look beautiful by making sure that he behaved more femininely than any woman.

That was, until he met his first love. His lover at that time complimented on his masculinity.

“He praised me with words I have never heard of before,” said Smith.  He then started to feel more comfortable with himself and realized that he can be handsome instead of pretty.

It took four years for him to accept himself as a man, until the age of 24, he decided to quit the homosexual community the moment he broke up with his last lover.

“I rejoiced because the weight was lifted and I feel that all the burdens are released at the time he told us he is getting married,” said Mary Smith, 68, mother of the former transgender.

“It was love at first sight,” said Smith cheerfully when asked about how he met his wife. Having two children and living a happy life, Smith now is a pastor and the founder of Real Love Ministry, aiming to assist the sexually broken community. The ministry is located in Portuguese Settlement, Melaka.

The two hours talk was ended with a short questions and answers, as well as a otography session with the speaker.

Smith was insecure about his look and his body. He strived so hard to make himself look beautiful and making sure that he behave more feminine than any woman. That is, until he met his first love. His lover at that time complimented on his masculinity. “He praised me with words I have never heard of before,” said Smith.  Then he started to feel more comfortable with himself and realized that he can be handsome instead of pretty.

It took four years for him to accept himself as a man, until the age of 24, he decided to quit        B    community the moment he broke up with his last love partner.

“I was joyful and I feel that all the burdens are released at the time he told us he is getting married,” said Mary Smith, 68, mother of the former transgender.

“It was love at first sight,” said Smith cheerfully when asked about how he met his wife. Having two children and living a happy life, Smith now is a pastor and the founder of Real Love Ministry, aiming to assist the sexually broken community. The ministry is located in Portuguese Settlement, Melaka.

The two hours talk was ended with a short questions and answers, as well as photography session with the speaker.

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